Spousal relationships should come first
For most of my marriage, I failed miserably at this. I immersed myself in mothering babies and toddlers and, as the parents of eight children, we were often struggling financially. I was so busy juggling bills and babies, I had no time to work on my marriage. The turning point in our relationship came after a long day of chemotherapy and radiation, when my husband collapsed in a chair in our living room, completely and utterly exhausted. I knelt down in front of him, removed his socks and shoes, and began rubbing his feet. When I looked up, there were tears in his eyes. In 27 years of marriage, I had never touched his feet. For the first time in a long time, maybe ever, I was putting my husband first. From that point on, I made a concentrated effort to consider David’s needs before my own. Doing so prompted him to reciprocate. In the ensuing years, we enjoyed an extraordinary relationship—a true partnership in every sense of the word.
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